By nature, I like to be busy. At least I thought I did until I became so busy that I quite literally cannot do all the necessary things I need to before the day's over.
Experienced parents are probably thinking something like, "you just wait..." but I don't have to wait to know my daily routine has, and will continue to, change as I adjust to parenthood.
I was driving to work the other day thinking to myself, "man, I could do so much with another couple, productive hours in my day." The more I thought about it the more I realized I actually have an extensive list of things to which I would delegate my time. Here is what I came up with:
- Spend quality time with my husband. I hate to admit it, but one thing that's been neglected at our house is quality one-on-one husband and wife time. We're both so busy tending to the house, the baby, our jobs and our own basic needs that we're completely missing out on those special moments cuddling on the couch, sneaking a kiss before walking out the door and holding hands for no reason. With another hour of time I would make sure to spend it with my husband.
- Play with my son. I cuddle with <A> every morning when I feed him, and after work sometimes I take him on my walks/runs, we always enjoy his bath time (more on that later) and then we cuddle up and settle down for the night. There's very little play time. It's not that I don't play with my son, but I want to play with him more. He's at an incredible age where new colors, scenery and noises truly fascinate him. He tries to mimic my actions and he loves to babble on in his own baby-chatter language. He has a huge gummy grin that he loves to share and I want to see it more often. With another hour of time I would make sure to play with my son more often.
- Take a bath. I honestly cannot remember the last time I took an intentional bath. Sure I hang out in my bathtub every night with <A> signing "rub-a-dub-dub <A>'s in the tub." To set the scene, I'm fully dressed squatting over his little infant tub scrubbing him down as he flashes his blue eyes and gummy grin (my heart melts). He splashes. I get wet. We sing and play. That is my new idea of a bath. I want to take a traditional, almost scalding hot, bubble bath and sip on a glass of wine. With another hour of time I would make sure to take time for myself.
- Paint our Guest Bath. We moved into our house in December, had a baby shortly thereafter and the rest is history. Except we never got around to painting, decorating, or doing all the things necessary to make our house a home. Luckily, we finished up <A>'s nursery before his arrival, but that's really the only room we've addressed. Now it's June (gasp) and we still have things in boxes. When my mom was in town babysitting she peeled the wallpaper off the guest bathroom walls (huge help!) and since then I've primed all the walls except one, but I still need to paint. With another hour of time I would make sure to take time to make our house a home.
My work-in-progress bathroom. Yikes!
- Sit in Silence. I am in such a wonderful place in my life. I have so much to be thankful for and I would love to take some extra time to stop, appreciate the moment and thank God for these blessings. With another hour of time I would make sure to take more time to thank God.
This list could go on and on. I would read, workout, cook a meal and then eat at the table. I'd write a blog post, and maybe read one, call my friends and family, shop in a store instead of in front of a computer screen. The struggle is that I don't have an extra hour, so I need to shift my focus and make some of these things more of a priority in my daily life. I need to weed out the unnecessary and focus on the truly meaningful things.
How do you manage your time and make sure you do everything you need to each day?