June 2, 2014

Husband Tracker

It recently came to my attention that a lot of my friends track their husband's or significant other's whereabouts. They download an apps onto their spouse's phone so that at any point in time they simply log in and it tells them their husband's exact GPS location. This just got me thinking... when did we become so insecure in our relationships that we need to know the exact whereabouts of our spouses, at all times?


Now, maybe I'm naive but I was shocked to find out how many women do this. And furthermore I was surprised to find out that the husbands know about it and they're okay with it. I honestly think I'm in the minority when I say, not only have I not done this, I've never thought about doing it. I simply don't understand the benefit and frankly I think it would drive me crazy. I would second guess my husband's every move and it would end up causing unnecessary anxiety and drama between us.

Now I understand insecurity. Every women deals with it in their own way, and I'm not judging, I'm just trying to better understand, why is this necessary? Does the need for this type of tracking system even stem from insecurities or is it something else altogether? Are men installing these type of apps on their wives phones? Oh my, I have so many questions! People, please help me understand!

Be Blessed,
Brittany
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14 comments:

  1. Wow, that's a little crazy. Where's the trust, people?!

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  2. I'm with you on this one... my husband and I do this crazy thing called communicating.. so I always do know where he is, but it's because he's told me lol not because my phone did

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    1. That's it! It's all about keeping an open line of honest communication.

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  3. I think the moment someone downloads an app to their husband's phone, it becomes obsessive. This seems like a great way to just feed insecurity and anxiety, not help it.

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    1. I know that it would amplify my own insecurities and it would make me second guess everything he did! That just seems like too much unnecessary anxiety for me.

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  4. I dont think I want to know....what I don't know don't hurt me. Not that I even think he would be doing something, but how do you approach that when you find him lying...."so...I downloaded an app on your phone that would track your every move and I know you weren't were you said you were." STALKER STATUS!!

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    1. I completely agree! I don't know how I could ever begin that conversation and if I did and I was wrong - wow!

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  5. So, when Tim and I had been together for a couple of months, he actually initiated the tracking (or "Latitude" which has been phased out by Google for a location tab in Google +), and I was VERY surprised that he was willing to show me where he was all the time. When I asked him about it, he said he thought it would be a good idea if we were ever worried about each other (but I didn't have to), and he told me how to both remove him and temporarily deactivate it if I wanted to (although he'd be able to tell if it was deactivated). I accepted, and after my previous relationships, I checked it regularly. I was surprised to see that he always was where he said he would be, and eventually I realized that it shouldn't be surprising. It allowed me to trust him sooner than I probably would have otherwise, just because I was so jaded. We still have it activated, and now I can see when he's leaving work, although I rarely check it unless I'm concerned and haven't heard from him in awhile.

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    1. Becca, thanks so much for putting a positive light on this. I guess I never really thought of it in a way that would help reinforce trust but that's a great way to use any of the tracking tools, if your significant other really is where he claims to be. I still don't know if it's for me but I'm hopeful that these aren't all installed because of insecurities and you've proven that. Plus, to your point, safety is a great advantage. I appreciate the comment.

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  6. WHAT?! This is just so insecure and unnecessary. How are the husbands okay with this? If I was ever asked if I could be tracked I would be so insulted!

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    1. I would be insulted too and I think my husband would be equally insulted. This just isn't an option for us as a couple and I don't understand how others are so open to this!

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  7. What? I had no idea this was out there! I have no need to track my boyfriend. We've done long distance for the past year and I can only imagine the insecurities this app would create for me!

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    1. I think it's great that you are so secure with your relationship that you don't feel the need for a tracker, especially since you're dating long distance.

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