October 15, 2014

Making Motherhood Work

It's the most wonderful time of the week - well, kinda, but not really at all because we all know the weekend is really the best. But it is the Mamas Tell All linkup and that is pretty fantastic! 

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Making Motherhood Work - Are you a working mom, a stay at home mom or something else entirely, and how do you make that role work for your family? 
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I'm sitting here writing this post and I should be asleep. I'm exhausted from an overly stressful week of work. I bet you can infer that I'm a working mom. I leave the house for 40 hours each week and I sit inside a cubicle. My working arrangement has its ups and downs. I can't compare my situation to anyone else's because I've never walked a mile in their shoes. 

I can tell you I think I'll always need to work in some form or fashion. Maybe it won't be in an office but I feel like I can offer my husband, my son and my family more when I have the outlet that work seems to provide. I know that my choice means that I have to make certain sacrifices and some days it's harder to accept those than others. 

There are days that I cry - guilty for leaving my son in the care of others while I'm at work. There are days when I'm tired. Well, let's be for real - I'm literally exhausted every day and I don't think that would change if I was at home with my little guy. There are days when I feel so tremendously grateful that I can help provide for my son and our family. Days when I run into the house after a long day at work and his giggle ignites a feeling in my heart that floods me with joy. There are days when I battle with my decision. I question the path I've chosen. I waver, almost daily. 

One thing I know for sure is that moms need to uplift and support the decision of other mothers. Whether they choose to work away from the home, stay with their children full time or manage a delicate balancing act of working from home, we all deserve the respect that we're doing our very best. We all make sacrifices and I'm sure we all struggle with our decisions at some point. We need to do what's right for ourselves, our children and our families. 

So bravo moms. You're all doing amazing. I'm here to be your support and your cheerleader. 
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Make sure to join us next week to discuss: Never Would I Ever, Until I Did - What things did you swear you'd never do as a mom and why (no pacis, no TV, etc.)? 


October 29 - Making time for Mama - How do you find time to relax and treat yourself? 
November 5 - Planning for the Future - Do you have a living will, guardianship and college saving funds in place. What's necessary and how do you make sure your child is prepared for the future? 
November 12 - Maintaining a Healthy Lifestyle when you have children. 

Be Blessed,
Brittany
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15 comments:

  1. Your doing awesome too mama! <3 I feel ya on the tiredness! When i was working 40+hours a week, it was so hard to come home & do anything. But I knew I was helping my family by bringing in some money.

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  2. You're fabulous and you're doing a great job! I like how you mention the outlet your job gives you...I know that I would go crazy if all I did was take care of my daughter all day, so I definitely relate!

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  3. There you GO, Brittany! You've hit the nail on the head :) none of the mommy-work decisions are completely "perfect" or "easy" that's for sure! I think it is important to have life and finances set up out so that the wife/mommy has the choice to work or not to work! It is most wonderful to make a decision and know that you made the best choice given your convictions and circumstances. I have an interview this afternoon for a part-time at home job, and feel grateful for the opportunity to choose to work about 20 hours a week, if all works out. I hope that it will ease financial pressures for our family, give me an outlet, and enable us to visit our family (2 plane flights away). Thank you for your honesty!

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  4. You're doing such a good job sweetie. You really are. As a working mom I have the exact same thought you do. "Am I doing the right thing?" etc. This is a really great post because it's so honest and real.

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  5. Couldn't agree more! We need to support each other because some stay at home moms have terrible days, and so do working moms. We are all just trying to do what is best for our family, love it!

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  6. I think we've gotten so many mixed messages as women that it's hard to feel good and confident about any path we choose as mothers. With men, the message is pretty straight-forward: Throw yourself into your work so you can provide for your family. Spend quality time with the kids on the weekend. Help your wife with dishes, don't throw your socks on the floor, and go on a weekly date night. Boom-- great job, Dad. Meanwhile, we're torn between feeling like we should be completely self-sacrificing to worrying about being good, strong role models to our kids to taking care of ourselves and our other family members... You have to speak positively to yourself and give yourself props for all you're doing. Trust that you are the best expert there is when it comes to what's right for you and your kids, and follow your gut.

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  7. You never completely win, no matter what you choose to do. There's always guilt and the "what if?" question lingering in some way or another. And I so agree, we mama's need to lift each other up!

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  8. Thanks lady! It's nice to know I'm helping but this week I've been working late and sleeping little - it takes its toll but I love helping make a great home for my son.

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  9. Thanks mama! I really appreciate stay at home moms, I just don't know if I could do what they do - they're angels if you ask me.

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  10. Thanks so much Andrea! I hope your interview went well. I'm saying a little prayer for you mama :)

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  11. Thanks Melissa. It's so hard to know I could have more time with my son if I was home more but sometimes I wonder if it would be quality time like it is now or if I would take my time with him for granted. I think I'll always second guess myself but I have to pray that what I'm doing is right for my family.

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  12. There are so many negative articles, posts, comments... about why moms should work, stay at home... I think there are pros and cons to every situation but the constant criticism of other moms is just terrible. We can all make things a little easier on each other just by being supportive.

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  13. Yes! We have to encourage each other! I think so many of us moms are a bit insecure and trying to prove to the world that we're doing alright (and media looooves to point out our failures), we don't always think about the importance of being an encourager to another mom.

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  14. I love the encouragement you give in this post. The topic of being a working mom is something that I have actually found to controversial. Even though I am not a mom yet, I have always said that I want to keep my career. In this day and age, if something happened to Chris and I was a SAHM our family would be screwed. I need to create my own income for at least that reason. not to mention the independence and confidence you gain from that as well. The looks that I get when I say that I want a career after kids is like seriously?!



    So what I am trying to say is thank you for posting about being a working mom - the good and the bad of it. It's nice to know that I am not "crazy" for wanting to do the same.

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