Jealousy is a dangerous drug. It's human instinct to compare ourselves to others and it's challenging to keep envious thoughts at bay. They seem to sneak up and take over like a nasty infection. Even more challenging is that jealousy can rear its nasty head at any stage of life. You might have first experienced jealously in grade school when a classmate had the newest toy, or middle school when your grades didn't compare to the smartest kids in the class. You weren't the the prom queen? Maybe that brought up feelings of inadequacy or envy. It might have been there when the "perfect" sorority girl showed up in the gorgeous dress and stole all the attention from your male counterparts. Maybe now you see the mom that can do it all and compare her wonderfully structured life to your own perfectly messy reality. There's always going to someone that's smarter, stronger, faster, more organized... but that doesn't mean you aren't perfect.
God created you perfectly - in his image. When you have envy in your heart find solace in the Lord and his plan. But I realize that is much easier said than done.
I can tell you I struggle with jealousy daily. I look at other mothers who seem to manage impossible schedules, hold down full time jobs, they look like they've stepped out of a fashion magazine every morning, their children are sparkling images of happy, healthy children and all the while they keep a beautifully organized home. How is that even possible? My true life is so far from that reality. My house is almost always in shambles. Those rare pictures I have of myself require the very generous, hands-on efforts of my husband so that I can brush my teeth and actually blow dry my hair - most days I'm rocking a top knot and glasses and some kind of sweat pants and t-shirt combination.
In my own eyes I'm not perfect but I try to remind myself that my son adores me, my husband gives me a special look when he is truly content and happy with life, my parents are proud the women I've become and my sister looks up to me. This isn't to say I'm not without my faults. But my earthly family loves the women and mom I am and my heavenly father created me perfectly.
For all you beautiful mamas out there you are amazing. You are hard working, beautiful, smart and above all you have little ones that you love and adore beyond your own comprehension - that is a wonderfully perfect thing.
Tell us about your struggles with jealousy and envy in this week's Mamas Tell All (#MamasTellAll) Linkup. Follow the lovely ladies below and make sure to share the link to your blog. If your not a blogger share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Check out previous posts from this link up here:
- Hiding in the Bathroom with Food – the weird things we do to get some time alone (or eat our favorite foods)
- To Spank or Not to Spank – a discussion on discipline: when to start, how to implement, and how does it change as kids get older
- Kids Say the Darndest Things – the crazy things that come out of our kids’ mouths
- Saying Goodbye to Diapers – tips and tricks or just stories about the potty-training process
- The Man Behind the Mama – talking about husbands, boyfriends, etc.