October 22, 2014

Never Would I Ever

Thanks for stopping by for the Mamas Tell All Link up this week. We're chatting about all the things we swore we'd never do as parents, until we caved and maybe some of those things you promised yourself you'd do as a mom but just never quite got around to. 

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Never Would I Ever, Until I Did - What things did you swear you'd never do as a mom and why (no pacis, no TV, etc.)? 

I was never the girl with dolls growing up. I never wanted to cuddle little ones when I went through the middle school babysitting years. I don't get a degree in teaching and I certainly lacked that maternal instinct that all women seem to have the moment after they walk down the aisle. I'm pretty sure that from an experience standpoint, I was unqualified to be a mother. This self-perceived lack of eligibility terrified me when I learned I was expecting but it also gave me perspective. 

I knew from the moment I found out that I was pregnant I needed to rely on the advice of others and I prayed that the cuddle characteristics inherent to child-totting mothers would suddenly strike me like lightening. After my son was born the fear I had every time someone asked me to hold a baby disappeared. I'd never wanted to hold anything as much as I wanted to hold my premature child. My life-long fear faded away due to a sheer heart-wrenching desire to comfort him before he was totted off to NICU. 

I say all this to demonstrate that my inexperience with children left me untainted by modern-day lists of mommy no-no's: no pacifiers, no television, no red dye 40 and no processed foods. I was ignorant to trendy sleeping patterns and the go-to BPA-free silverware. And frankly, I think that's a good thing. I have a better understanding of these things now that I'm wrapped around a toddler's little finger but I still try not to get lost in lengthy lists of dos and don'ts. Obviously sometimes that's easier said than done. 

I wanted to make all my son's baby food - I wanted to speak in equal parts Spanish and English while at home - I wanted to have all his wash done at the end of every day. I didn't do any of these things completely - of course I tried them all - and still my son is doing just fine. I have his best interests in mind, always, but I try (try being the keyword) not to get caught up in what I'm doing wrong because every time he smiles I know I've done something right.


Make sure to join us next week to discuss: Making time for Mama - How do you find time to relax and treat yourself? 

November 5 - Planning for the Future - Do you have a living will, guardianship and college saving funds in place. What's necessary and how do you make sure your child is prepared for the future? 
November 12 - Maintaining a Healthy Lifestyle when you have children. 

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  1. as moms all we can do is try. You have your son's best interest in mind and in heart and that's all that matters. he's growing and happy and you can be proud that you're raising him right, no matter the methods! he's adorable!

  2. It's so important that we realize that cliche is so true...you don't have to be perfect to be a perfect parent! Love this post...keep rockin' on, mama!

  3. We all want to be perfect moms, then reality hits... our kids are going to be just fine with out us stressing to do things perfectly. <3

  4. Marketing is really awful towards moms. They make us think we have to have the most expensive everything, ecofriendly nontoxic $40 bottles or whatever. It's just crazy and it only makes us feel like we are not doing enough. You are doing a great job and your son is such a cutie pie!

  5. I feel like no one should any parent until they are in their shoes and at the end of the day, as long as you have a happy, healthy kiddo at home then YOU are doing something right :)

  6. Thanks so much Melissa. You are so supportive you always make my day!

  7. I love that saying - I don't care how cliche it is!